There comes a time that you realise that you cannot please everyone. There is a wide range of terminology and one person’s understanding of one term may be different to another’s. So I am just going to put my thing out there with my terminology and those that want extra clarification can ask about specifics.
The idea of Child lead/self directed is that the child chooses what activities they do. It is up to the parent to decide if they want to give the child the freedom to choose or not. In a society where in the past children were seen but not heard, giving them a voice and handing over the responsibility to choose their own destiny is very radical.
Can we trust a child not to spend all day on their gadget? Can we trust them to only go on suitable websites and games? Can we trust them to do what they feel they need to do? As an adult, I can spend excessive time on my mobile or tablet, however I know it is productive time. As an adult I can also put my gadgets down and go out into the woods or out to meet friends. For some children working out how to get through the current level of their game is very important, it is their work. It can build confidence and self esteem because then they can show their friends how to do it. It can promote conversation, help to make new friends. It can earn congratulations from an adult.
Hats off to those who have already show faith in their children!